Reddit getting hit on a lot at the gay bar

In fact they may have become a new arena for cruising — of a heterosexual variety. On a Monday night, in a gay club, someone tried to pick me up. There were three crucial elements to this. It was a man, he was straight, and he was cute. At first I thought I might just have some outstanding man-attracting skills, some extra special female pheronomes.

And indeed the fact that it was a Monday, when most sensible people head home at a reasonable hour, instead of talking politics with random strangers can have had nothing to do with it. Surely not? My friend Colin accuses me of being a fag hag, and admittedly the evidence is on his side. After all, I do go to gay bars at least once a week.

This is not because I am a fag hag. Nor do I have unrequited feelings and secret sexual longings for gay men. I just happen to have a lot of gay and lesbian friends. After a while I hit some sort of critical mass and quite by accident I ended up with a number of gay and lesbian friends.

However, there are a few and those that do are easily spotted. The first point I had to agree with. After all, gay bars attract numerous straight, semi-straight and bi-curious women. Are fag stags — straight men who have gay friends and spend time in gay bars — on to something?

A quick search on Google seemed to confirm the idea. There were articles and posts galore recommending gay bars as havens for men looking to meet women. A good few Irish men seem to have cottoned onto the idea as well, if the posters on Boards. Others agreed.

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Like me he ended up with a number of gay and lesbian friends by accident instead of design and spends a great deal of his time socialising in situations where being heterosexual is a minority pursuit. I have no map for this territory. Edward was a little cagey. I just find it really easy to speak to people there.

He thought I meant that he had some sort of magnetic heterosexual aura, but the truth was slightly more prosaic — he has long hair, a look favoured by rockers, metal heads and neo-hippies, but rarely by gay men. To hit on women occasionally, yes, but most, like me, are there to spend time with friends without an ulterior sexual agenda.

Cheeky pup! I was feeling a little smug.